Dear Husband, I Need to Thank You

Dear Husband, I Need to Thank You. This is an open letter to my husband, because…well he deserves it. SPOILER ALERT: Mushy PDA coming up. Not responsible for tears!

Dear Husband, I Need to Thank You

Dear Husband,

I need to thank you.

You Complete Me

I felt empty before I met you. Empty like a piece of me was missing and I was tirelessly searching for it. I knew I found it when I met you. I can’t even put into words the wholeness that I feel everyday knowing you are my husband. When I was pregnant with your boys, I felt special. I felt connected to you. I felt honored and chosen to carry your babies. We are distinctly different. You make up for all that I lack.

You are my home. You are my family. No matter what happens in our future, I am complete with you. I will go where you go. Your enemies are my enemies. Your God will be my God. Your family is my family. Your home will be my home. Forever.

You Understand Me

I feel very misunderstood by many people, but worse I feel most people don’t want to understand me. But you, you always seek to understand me. This past year was hard, for many reasons, but for one in particular – the loss of my circle of friends. You know my heart. You know that I always have the best of intentions. You understand me. You get me. In fact, I think you’re the only person who truly does. But only because you are the only person who has taken the time. You always know what I need to hear. You know what worries me and what scares me. You know my secrets. You know exactly what I need at exactly the right time. Best of all, you never pass judgement. Thank you for taking the time to know and understand me.

Dan kissing my hand

You Comfort Me

We’ve been through a lot together. Miscarriages. Addictions. Depression. Death. Birth. Jobs. Sickness. Despair. Moving. Globetrotting. Grief. Anniversaries. Birthdays. Beginnings. Endings. Through it all, you comfort me. You do it in a way that makes me “see” Christ in you, working through you. I’m proud of you. I’m proud of you for overcoming your strongholds. Even through that rocky, confusing time, you comforted me. Many men would have cut and ran. Some men would have given up. When we lost our babies, when I’ve gone through horrific bouts of depression, you comforted me. You many not have always known how, but I promise you – you did. Even if all you could do was throw your arms around me. If all you could do was cry with me, I promise – you comforted me. Thanks for never walking out on me when life got hard.

Monticello

You Are Merciful to Me

I’m choking up just typing this. This is huge – and you probably don’t know that I’m aware of this, but I am. You cover my faults. You hide them. It would be easy to expose them. The world tells us it’s okay “to vent.” People are quick to share how someone has let them down or done them wrong.

But you – you don’t even bring up my faults in conflict or arguments. You spare me. You extend mercy when I don’t deserve it. While others might look at my faults with a magnifying glass, you cover me with grace. You give me permission to be human. You are slow to anger and quick to forgive me. You let me “win” even at the cost of your own pride. You are malleable when I am obstinate. You are long-suffering when I am insufferable. You save me from the embarrassment of my own shortcomings. I notice. I’m grateful. I’m humbled.

You Protect Me

Protection, real protection is such an attractive quality in a man. I don’t just mean physical protection. I mean the kind of protection that is hard. The kind of protection that shelters me from verbal attacks, criticism, anger, cruel intentions, and more. When Jack was born, we faced all kinds of criticism and judgement. But you did your best to protect me from it, going so far as to accept the “sentencing” onto yourself. I never saw you more Christ-like. After all, isn’t that what Christ does for us? He took on our sin and paid the price for us, so we wouldn’t have to. I saw you do that for me. I saw you risk everything to support me. That is love.

But also, you set me strait. You rebuke me when I need correction, thereby saving me from going down a dark path. My bipolar isn’t easy to live with and yet, you do it with so much gentleness. You protect me even from that, as much as you can.

Us

You Serve Me

In the flesh-driven world, “service” to your spouse is so misunderstood. It’s thought of in feudalistic terms like serfdom or worse, slavery. But real spouses serve each other in love. As in Christ’s example, “I came not to be served, but to serve.” You go to work everyday to support us. You make huge sacrifices, always putting yourself last, so we can come first.

Even when you come home tired, because of my bipolar, you get up with the baby every night. You have for years. I am ashamed that I can’t do that without huge ramifications with my illness. But you never complain. You do it so willingly and drag yourself to work the next day. When I’ve had a rough day, you offer to bring dinner home even though I know you’d rather not spend the money. You’ve taken our boys to the emergency room and waited for hours there by yourself. You’ve used your vacation days, not for you, but for us. When our babies are sick, you’ll run out at all hours for medication. It’s thankless and exhausting.

Dear Husband I Need To Thank You

Dear Husband, I Need to Thank You

Dear Husband, I need to thank you. I need you to know how much I appreciate your sacrifices and tireless efforts. I want you to know it matters and it doesn’t go unnoticed. I love you. More than I could ever put into words. More than I could ever show you.


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20 Valentine’s Day Gifts for Him

It can be daunting to find a present for the guy who has everything. Here are 20 Valentine’s Day gifts for him as well as other tips to help find that perfect gift.

Valentines day gifts for him

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Valentine’s Day is fun, isn’t it? I used to not really care about Valentine’s Day when I was single, but these days with two kids, it’s something I really look forward to because we actually get a date night! The thing I dislike, is trying to find a gifts for my husband. It’s not that he is picky, it’s just that he doesn’t have a lot wants. I figure many women are in the same boat! So I’m compiling 20 Valentine’s Day gifts for him based on price range.

Most men are hard to buy for, I think. They always say they dont want anything, making gift-giving even harder. Some of these gifts, I have personally bought. Hence, why I’m recommending them. Amazon is a great source for gifts especially if you have Amazon Prime.

Types of Gifts

My husband is a huge sports fan, specifically a fan of his alma mater, Ohio State. (Somewhere there is a Wolverine crying) Sadly. it’s everybody’s go-to gift for him. He never says anything, but his lackluster expression every birthday and Christmas says everything when he opens another Ohio State T-shirt or pullover. Additionally, it isn’t his only interest and it shows me how little family and friends pay attention to his hobbies.

Something They Need

When considering a gift, think about what they need. Is there something they use, they don’t like buying for themselves? For example, my husband loves Under Amour socks, but hates clothes shopping. Maybe there is something they want – a splurge or guilty pleasure (pay attention when you go shopping). If they like something while you are milling around in the store, make note of it for the next holiday.

Something Fun

In addition, consider getting something that is just goofy and fun. I love doing that for Valentine’s Day. I often save big expensive gifts for birthdays and Christmas. Valentine’s Day is the only time you can get away with something silly as a gift.

For example, Etsy has great, unique, custom gifts for such thing. For instance, my husband loves Ron Swanson from the t.v. show Parks and Recreation. So, I got a funny “Ron Swanson’s Pyramid of Greatness” poster to hang in his office.

Something Sentimental

Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to give something sentimental. For example, Artsy Voiceprint captures the sound wave of your voice on wood. It even has a special QR code you can scan and listen to!

A few years ago, I made a Love Book. These are so cute. You choose the title and cover. Second, you make the cartoon characters look like you. Then you choose all the pages and personalize them to tell your unique love story!

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Something Old But Different

Lastly, consider a new take on an old interest. For example, my hubby is interested in woodworking. But instead of getting him another tool, I went on eBay and found vintage woodworking magazines from the 1950’s.

If you haven’t checked out Man Crates, you don’t know what you’re missing. They have a whole new take on the average gift basket. I mean, a salami bouquet? What man wouldn’t want that? They have a hot sauce sampler that looks like dynamite! The best part is that many of the man crates come in an actual wooden crate he’ll have to pry open! If they’re out of your budget you can always do what I did one year. I bought some old ammo cans on eBay and filled them up with man goodies!

Gifts Under $15

These are small gifts. Maybe a new charger to replace the frayed one or perhaps a micro screw driver set (those darn toys always seem to need them).

Gifts Under $25

These gifts are still inexpensive, but more than just a thought. My favorite options are some team themed glasses (Go Bucks!), portable bluetooth speakers, etc. Additionally, if your hubby is a reader, good books fall under this price range. Also, there are all kinds of grilling accessories (salt blocks, baskets, etc)

Gifts Under $50

The $50 range is really when options start to open up. There are several man crates around this price range. Does your husband love camping? Maybe a cast iron smoker box or cast iron dutch oven for the campfire. Additionally, you could consider a portable grill for tailgating.

Gifts Under $100

In this price range, think big ticket items. Tools, high-tech gadgets, tents. I actually got my husband a meat smoker for around $100 on sale.

I hope I’ve made Valentine’s Day gift-giving a little easier and that you have a wonderful Valentine’s Day with your honey. Make it special!


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